Welcome to the 90 Day Oral Challenge!

As a Sexual Educator, I am very committed to always "walking my talk". Therefore, in honor of my newest book release, Blow Each Other Away, I decided to enroll my partner, D.love, into a 90 Day Oral Sex Project! (See video below where I share more about WHY I did this, and HOW I enrolled D.Love to participate.)

What an AMAZING experience it was for my partner and I to give and/or receive oral sex for 90 consecutive days! (Well, we did take a few days off in there). It has had such an incredible impact on our connection and commitment to one another!

Throughout our 90 Day Challenge, I wrote a brief synopsis of our activities for that day. I hope that these give you lots of inspiration for things that you would like to try with your lover.

I admit I feel a little bit vulnerable putting it all out there for you, but I do believe in "teaching from the table", which means that I teach from my own personal, embodied experiences. My 101 Days of Pleasure Project didn't feel this vulnerable. I am witnessing the differences in that my shame about oral sex ran much deeper than my shame about solo pleasure.

I invite you to browse through some of my journal entries about our experience. D.Love and I encourage you to share your own stories, challenges and questions.

AND....In August, we will be choosing one person to WIN A FREE PHONE/SKYPE SESSION WITH ME! We will also randomly choose 5 other people to win a choice of one free book or DVD from my store.

Now...for you....I challenge you to at least 7 Days of Oral Sex with your lover. (You may get my new book, Blow Each Other Away, for ideas and inspiration) And if you don't have a lover, do 7 Days of Solo-Pleasure. (I once did 101 Days and discovered all kinds of amazing things about myself!) I also highly recommend you try my personal favorite, and organic, lube...Aloe Cadabra. We LOVE the Piña Colada flavor!

So, again....we invite you to share with us what you did*, what you experienced, what some of your challenges or breakthroughs were, and what results you saw as a result of experiencing your own Oral Sex Challenge!

*Note: We will be screening each of the stories/comments and reserve the right to not publish some that we feel are too inappropriate or explicit in nature.

How To Enroll Your Partner in The 90 Day Oral Challenge

My partner D.Love is on board for the 90 Days of Oral Challenge. YAY! Take a look at the video below to see our negotiation...and WHY I chose to do the 90 Day Oral Challenge.



We agreed to the following:

• 90 Days of Oral Sex with 10 days free in case of sickness or scheduling issues.
• There must be at least 5 minutes of present, focused oral play. This includes passionate kissing, body kissing, or hand and mouth combinations.
• "Quickies" are okay and I need to remind D.Love that I am okay with them.
• We will remember that we are winning by marking the days down on a calendar and feeling into each day that we accomplish connecting.
• I will keep my perfectionist in check and will not focus on failure.
• These are our guidelines for the next 90 days. I am very excited. D.Love seems excited, too. We are currently on Day 4 of the challenge and are really enjoying it. D.Love seems very proud of himself. He's been reading my book, too, which makes me smile. I walk into the bedroom and there he is flipping through the book for inspiration.

Throughout our 90 Day Challenge, I will be writing a brief synopsis of our activities for that day. I hope that these give you lots of inspiration for things that you would like to try with your lover. I admit I feel a little bit vulnerable putting it all out there for you, but I do believe in "teaching from the table", which means that I teach from my own personal embodied experiences.

My 101 Days of Pleasure Project didn't feel this vulnerable. I am witnessing the differences, in that shame about oral sex ran much deeper than my shame out solo pleasure. Ah well...it's on...and over the next 90 days I'll be sharing it with you!

D.Love and I encourage you to share your own stories, challenges and questions. As an incentive, all those who comment on our blog posts will be entered into a drawing to win a free 2-hour Skype call with me! (Please click here to see full rules and qualifications).

We hope you will enjoy this challenge as much as we have been!

Day 1 - The More Pleasure I Feel, The More He Feels

I received. D.Love really gets into my pleasure. The more pleasure I feel, the more he feels. What I love about oral sex is that you can just get right into it, unlike intercourse, which doesn't feel good if there hasn't been some kind of warm-up.

D.Love started by kissing me, then went below for some flicks on my clit with his tongue, and then some awesome hand and mouth action (D.Love's Delight). After I had an awesome orgasm, we kissed and cuddled some more.

Day 2 - It Was My Turn To Give

We started out kissing and then I went to flicking my tongue over his Frenulum and the area where he has a little foreskin (Fun with his Frenulum!).

After that I went into some hand and mouth combinations, like Deep Illusions and Taste of Shiatsu.

He had a shaking O. Love when that happens!

Day 3 - The "End of The Bed For Her" Position

D.Love and I were home alone in the afternoon (a rare occurrence). He was in bed flipping through my book, Blow Each Other Away, and wanted to try the End of The Bed For Her position. I am always glad to receive or give, but am feeling really excited about his eagerness to try new things. So we did just that.

He kneeled on some pillows at the end of the bed and had fun pleasuring me. I noticed myself feeling a little self-conscious, like my orgasm was taking too long. He reassured me that he would take care of himself and I need not worry about him. He kept his jeans on, which I thought was super hot.

Day 4 - This Time the Oral was 69 Position

Early morning. No one was up yet so we took advantage of the moment. The sun was rising and it was perfect to wake up to some kissing and petting. But my mind was racing about all that needed to be done. Sometimes it takes some more intense stimulation or breathing to get me in my body and out of my head.

D.Love always knows when I am in my head. This time the oral was 69 position, just for a little while before we dove into intercourse. I was glad for the intercourse, but noticed that I've really been enjoying just having oral lovemaking. It makes me wonder what it would have been like just to limit our challenge to only oral sex. Don't get me wrong, I love intercourse...I just wonder what it would be like.

Day 5 - A Tie and Tease

I like to plan things out, think about them and create a good scene for D.Love to enjoy. While he was in the bathroom, I snuck into the closet and pulled out some rope. When he came back into the bedroom he knew what he was in for!

I did a simple bind around his legs and then totally teased him. I started with touch all over, and then moved into lick and kisses. I just wanted to tease him, so this wasn't a very long session, more like a mid-afternoon quickie, maybe 5-10 minutes. I teased him a little with my mouth and tongue...got him right where I wanted him...and then untied him and announced he was free to go about his day! He LOVED it!

Some guys would get all frustrated with this Tie and Tease, but for D. Love it was perfect. *Note: D.Love and I have played previously with restraint and we already have safe words and other understandings in place, so we didn't need that conversation for this instance.